Vancouver guy. Cosplayer. Runner and adventurer.
(Sorry I had to split this in two). For example, when I’m on my period, my stomach will bulge just a tiny bit (It’s not even noticeable when I’m wearing clothes), but she feels the need to point it out, and hint at trying to “cut it down”. I find this frustrating because no matter how many times I try to explain (using different methods), she just forgets and continues to make comments like that. What should I do? I am very confident w/ my body but it still bugs me because I know it hurts others
I can sense that, even though you noted that this upsets you not because you’re hurt by it but because it hurts others, that you are hurt by this regardless. I don’t know anyone who wouldn’t be hurt by being told they need to lose weight regardless of how in shape they are.
Therefore, it may be better to approach this by telling your mom that what she’s saying hurts your feelings. Make it personal, because it is. And every time she brings it up again bring up that it hurts you. And be specific: “every time you say that I’m “getting a little heavy”” it really hurts me.”
You may also want to question your mother on what she eats and what she does. Children more often than not learn their eating and exercising habits from their parents. Instead of this being a unilateral issue make it bilateral: ok mom, let’s both look at our eating habits. Let’s both exercise more together. This is especially easy to do with eating, though, because it means making healthier dinners that you eat as a family. If she doesn’t want to practice what she preaches then her criticisms are null. And if she takes on this challenge then you’re both the healthier for it. No matter how in shape you are healthy eating and light exercise are good for you, not specifically for weight loss but for heart health, emotional well-being stamina etc.
Note on that though: Eating less does not mean eating healthier!
Hope that helps!
I used AquaColour grey for the foundation then Ben Nye Graystone for the black contouring :) it was really hard to get the makeup on even though (it was very blotchy though that may not be as evident in photos as in person XD), so I think I’d go about a different method next time.