When did you change your mind about bottom surgery? I remember you saying (in a vid I think) that you felt enough like a guy with just the top surgery and that you didn't really think bottom surgery was necessary.
I changed my mind a while back. Bottom surgery wasn’t really within my realm of consideration early on, but as I got my body sorted out in other ways my dysphoria more or less just started to pool around that area.
I feel like a guy through and through, always have. But I know 100% that I was literally born with a missing appendage down there and I’d like to rectify that.
now that you have top surgery done are you going to get bottom surgery?
I’m currently on a waiting list to get phalloplasty. However, due to a constraint on the number of patients MSP takes for it yearly as well as the length of the waiting list I’m expecting to wait years for it unless policies change :/ so ill get it eventually XD
Sorry if this has already been asked/answered..., but in total how much did you pay for the top surgery? And how much would it cost paying out of pocket since my insurance would never agree to cover that?
I paid out of pocket for my surgery and it cost approx. $7000 ( which is about average)
hi I was told you could give some advice on getting hormones (although it's probably different cause I'm mtf sorry to bother you)
It’s essentially the same process and it’s no bother! First I’d advise you to speak to your GP/Family Doctor. If they are comfortable treating a Trans patient and assessing you for hormones, then great! If not, or if they need support for that, there are resources available for that. If you want further specification and feel comfortable doing so please PM me and just let me know what area (province/state) you’re in and ill provide what I can about accessing hormones in your area. :)
Curious about your name :) So, Lucas is a really common name. Was it important for you to choose a common name? :) Do you have any name-finding tips?
For me yes, it was important to have a common male name with common spelling. I felt that when I used an uncommon name attention was drawn to my gender and identity and I felt that worked against me in terms of how I wanted others to address and perceive me. Lucas just sort of popped up here and there in newspapers, film credits, etc. and so I put it on a list with a few other names and polled some friends/family to see which one they thought fit me. Lucas was the one most of them picked, so I went with that :).
Hi Twin! :) I was just wondering if you have any advice about wearing a wig all day to a con (like if I should bring a brush, how to avoid lots of tangles, how to keep it secure, etc)? And maybe how to compact long thick hair under a wig? I think I've got it pretty secure, but any tips you might have would be very helpful! I'll be at FanExpoVan with my sister and on Sun., we'll be Zelda&Hilda from tLoZ aLBW. (Also we'll be Mario&Luigi Fri., Luke&Leia Sat.) Hope to see you there! :D &thank you!
For long wigs it might be a good idea to pack a brush/Mane and Tail detangling spray just in case. However from what Nova tells me (I don’t wear long wigs often so this is all second hand info XD) if you just use your fingers and regularly brush your fingers through your hair the wig should be fine for the day :)
Securing a wig with bobby pins can really help. And you should also be wearing a wig cap if you aren’t already. For long/thick hair try the double wig cap method: Cut a pair of thick nylons so that they form a tube that can go on your head. slip the tube over your head and onto your neck, collect your hair however is most comfortable (braid, ponytail, you can also have it untied…) and then slip the tube over your face so it serves as a wig cap with a hole in the top. Now affix a closed wig cap (no hole in the top) over your head. This method should keep your hair secure :).
Very much looking forward to seeing you and your sister at FanExpo! Especially hoping to see you two as Zelda and Hilda ;D I love me some LoZ!
Hey! So I just recently moved to the Vancouver area and I was hoping you could help me out. I've been seeing a therapist since August and though he said he does believe that hormone therapy is the right decision for me, he doesn't usually deal with people my age (19) and he wanted me to see an acquaintance of his before he diagnoses me with Gender Dysphoria Disorder. The thing is, he's really hard to get ahold of and I've been waiting since AUGUST and still nothing has happened. So anyway I (1)
"moved to the Vancouver area and I’m not sure where to go now. I’m scared that my only option is to see a brand new therapist and be assessed again but I really don’t want to do that because it typically takes about three months, doesn’t it? Basically I’m getting more depressed by the day because if I had started hormones three months after my August appointment I’d already be six months on T and I can’t bare the thought of having to wait three more months (at the very least) to start (2) hormones. Do you know of anyone I could talk to in Vancouver that could help me get on hormones faster? Sorry if this was kinda complicated! (And long!) (3)"
Hello there Anon :)
Ok so the good news is that you do not need to therapist’s assessment to go on hormones. Gender therapy is no longer required for HRT, however an assessment by a qualified assessor is.
Unfortunately you might have to wait 3 months anyway, since wait times can be high due to the massive increases in the number of people accessing gender affirming healthcare.
First off, do you have a GP? If you do you can ask them if they would be able/willing to help you access hormones. The R.A.C.E. line could be a resource they could access if they are worried an want to speak to a trans speciality care practitioner.
If you don’t have a GP, or don’t have a good relationship with them, you can also call Three Bridges Community Health Centre or Raven Song Community Health Centre which offer Trans Speciality Care.To book an appointment contact the intake nurse at 604-633-4248. The nurse will identify the clinic that is able to see you and provide you with a date and time for an initial consultation appointment. For further support regarding health care system navigation or anything else you can also contact THiP (Trans Health Information Program) whuch is also run out of VCH. So in other words if you run into trouble or need help, THiP can help :)
A third option would be Catherine White Holman Wellness Centre, which is a volunteer run organization that operates on the ICATH model of informed consent. The wait time for CWHWC might be significant, though.
In between finals and increased hours at work FANEXPO IS HAPPENING! 8D I’ll be there all three days :3 I hope to get to see a bunch of folks there! I didn’t really get a feel for the con last time I went since we only went for part of a day. This year we’re actually going for more than just a few hours. WOOT!
If you see me there please come say hello! Always love hanging out with folks and meeting new friends! See you there ;D
And if you are going let me now what you’ll be cosplaying (if you are!).
Friday: Peter Parker (The Amazing Spiderman)
Saturday: Nightwing (Batman)
Sunday: Tony Stark (Iron Man)
I want to thank you for doing the trans info youtube videos. I have been really overwhelmed trying to start my process in conservative southern Louisiana. I have a question though. Do you know of any ways that I would not need a therapist's consent to undergo top surgery? I am sorry if these questions are stupid. I am just overwhelmed by the research. Thank you ahead of time, I am sure you are quite busy. Sorry to bother you. And (off subject) I am excited to possibly meet you and Nova @Mechacon
Hi there :) due to the Standards of Care you do need a mental health professional or a doctor who is capable of assessing SRS readiness to give you a letter for surgery. So you don’t need a therapist per se but you do need a letter from a qualified professional. I’m linking you a resource guide I found for folks seeking Trans health care in Louisiana, hopefully that helps you get connected :) http://www.latransadvocates.org/resources.html
Hi twin I was wondering if you could give me some advice? I need to tell my little siblings that I'm trans, they're around elementary school age, and my parents already know. I just don't know how to start a conversation like that with them, and if they'll even understand. Would you be able to give me any suggestions?
Version 1 is simplified, so that might be better for younger kids. Version 2 is more accurate but more complex. All in all, though, you can ask them what gender their bodies are and what gender their brains are. Then say that your body is one gender but your brain is another. Then ask them if their identity is in their brain or their body (if your body changed would you still be you?). Then follow up that since you don’t want to change who you are, you want to change your body so that it matches with your mind and your identity. At this point you could introduce the gender bread man and also reinforce that gender diversity is natural (comparing it to different appearances of people). Finally ask them to ask you anything they want and be clear that you want them to talk to you if they are worried or confused. Ask them to call you what you wish them to call you, explaining that it would make you feel better if they did, ask them if they can do that, if they indicate they can’t ask why. Close out by telling them that you love them and that you’ll always be their older sibling (if you are ftm tell them you’re happy to be their big brother).
This may be a dum question, but do they make you wait at the clinic after getting a hormone shot for like 30 minutes? I used to go in for allergy shots and they made me do that to make sure I didn't react or anything. I know hormones are not like allergy shots, but I was wondering because they are both injections and I wasn't sure if that was a thing to anticipate.
Not a dumb question at all :) but no, you can leave the clinic right after you get your shot (as long as you don’t get faint/dizzy/nauseous etc. in which case the clinicians would want you to stay put until you felt better).
Hey, question the time that you went to get your first testosterone shot, what was going on through your head how did you feel? were you excited, scared, afraid that you might regret it? Also did you have someone come with you for your first shot, or did you go by yourself?
I was elated 8D There wasn’t any fear of regret however I was a little nervous about the feeling of getting poked by a needle. Other than that I was just over the moon with excitement about starting HRT XD
My first shot (and for about a month or so after that) a nurse at my clinic did my shot for me. I went with a friend for my first time as she would be helping me to do my shot down the line so we figured it would be best if she came along to more or less learn how to do it XD
Hey, I'm in gender therapy and I've been going for a year now, how do I talk to my therapist about going on T? Do I just ask about my letter or how do I start the conversation?
Hello :) you can begin the conversation by telling your therapist that you would like to go on T and asking when they would be able to write you a letter for it. Just indicating that you’re interested in starting hormones should be enough to get the ball rolling on that. If your therapist refuses or hesitates then ask them why. You have every right to know their reasoning for denying you a service and you also have a right to seek out another service provider if they are keeping you “in limbo” so-to-speak.