YOU HAVE NO IDEA EXCITEMENT I FEEL AT SEEING THAT ASK
OHMYGOD A REASON TO BRING HOUSE OUT AGAIN
ALL OF MY CRIES
Yeah Courtney said she'd be Cuddy sometime, I'd love to bring House back out, I'm sure if Steph is able she'd LOVE to be Wilson again, and ohmaaan fuckin Thirteen and Chase. I'm so stoked you got into it!
I AM SO UP FOR THIS. WHEN. WHERE. JUST LET ME KNOW.
BUT YOU DO REALIZE I WILL BOSS YOU AROUND LIKE A TOTAL ASSHOLE.
After Fanime any time Courtney is up for Cuddy. All we have to do it make doctors coats, i have the hair for it atm XD We can find a location and get Alex or Bailey for a shoot and just make a day of it XD
Dear Lucas (this should totally be a NY Times column)
Everyone but one person in my school's GSA is bisexual. I'm the odd one out. When I first went accompanied my friend to the meetings, most of them thought I was bi and were really nice to me. However, when I came out it they became upset, calling me bigoted and sexist for only liking one gender. I know that gender is infinite, and the mind is the most important part of a person (I've even fallen for a few guys because of their personalities and minds) but physically... I'm only attracted to girls. I've tried to force myself to like boys as well, but I can't. I don't go to the meetings anymore, and they don't talk to me at all, but I can't stop thinking about what they said. Am I wrong to only like one gender?
Any insight on this would help so much.
Thank you for your time,
It is bigoted for them to put you down because of your sexuality, and by doing so EXTREMELY counter-productive to the purpose of a GSA. GAY-STRAIGHT ALLIANCE. These groups are meant to reach out to people and break down the walls of bigotry. What the members of your GSA was ignorant and bias.
You’re right, you can’t force your attractions. Personally I identify as straight because I am primarily attracted to women. It’s just how the cylinders fire in my brain, I like girls. I’m sure that some people would argue that I’m bi because I’m aware of the fact that I must find men attractive in that I can differentiate between a man who is attractive and a man who is not. Furthermore, I reason that it’s not like I could NEVER love a man. If a guy came along and we were meant to be, I wouldn’t say that I couldn’t love him because of his gender. To me that’s like saying “I can’t love you because you’re african american”. But still, when it comes to my sexuality, I like boobs, nuff said. Love isn’t about superficial components (like gender, height, weight etc.) but sexuality does deal with these components.
There is no wrong or right when it comes to sexuality, gender, race, height, eye colour, shoe size etc. It’s all stuff that you’re born with, it just IS. No one can tell you you’re wrong for being who you are, it’s like a cat yelling at a dog for being a dog and not a cat… lol wut?
I've been thinking about it quite a bit recently, and I've decided that I really want a binder. Not because I'm FTM, but really just because of my cosplay. My mother already knows that almost all of my cosplays are crossplays because I'm the most guy-ish of the group and that I only have one girl cosplay (Kairi, the one I met you in at Sakura Con XD). But she also knows that I've done a report on transgendered rights in the past and has asked me if I feel like I am trans, where I've told her that I'm comfortable with my gender. I think that if I tell her that I'm ordering a binder from online, as we have to clear all orders with her first, that she'll just think I'm 'going all transgendered' again and get distant.
I just need a way to tell her that I want a binder for cosplay only and that she can stop worrying; I'm comfortable with being a girl. Thanks so much!
Tell her exactly that: “I want a binder for cosplay only and that she can stop worrying; I’m comfortable with being a girl.”
If she knows about your crossplaying you could try explaining binding to her. Binders are probably the safest way to bind (ace bandage and other methods can be dangerous). Binding is not safe in general so if you’re going to do it you’d mind as well do it safely and comfortably.
These are my feelings on the subject. This is not a generalized consensus nor is it a statement as to how you should or shouldn’t view things.
I see my transsexuality as a medical condition. And like anyone else with a past or chronic medical condition my condition doesn’t define me. I will not lie about ever having had this condition, and if people are confused and press me for information I will not cover up. But it is not something I will say upon and introduction, and it is not information that I will give out in a wanton way.
This is not a lifestyle for me. It’s not a label. I’m an average guy living an average life. When i describe myself I say: 21, male, from West Vancouver likes: hockey, rollarblading, running, amusement parks, disney, anime, music, hiking… “FTM” or “trans” doesn’t go in there. To me it doesn’t belong in there. Just like how I wouldn’t put “seasonal allergies” in there as well.
If people ask me if I’m male or female, I answer male. I am male. I have a penis, it’s not a typical penis but that’s how I perceive my genitalia and that’s how the person I’m intimate with perceives my genitalia. Biologically speaking it is an elongated clitoris, but I rarely ever hear a guy specify his penis shape, size and as being circumcised or un-circumsized so unless you really need specification, it’s a penis. You’re never gonna see it, sooooo I’m not entirely sure why it would matter to you. Quite frankly i could have tree growing down there and you’d never know.
On my chest I have a few scars and I have nipples that look a little off and are still healing. But revisions for surgeries are common (if I decide to have one), and gynecomastia is a male surgery.
I haven’t always thought this way. At one point in my transition and pre-transition it was important for me to define myself as a transman. But now that I feel like I’m through my transition (I’m not “fully” transitioned but I’m past those initial drastic changes) I feel that I can and I feel like it’s right and healthy for me to take off the “trans” and just be a “man”.
I pass fully in my day to day life. On my daily interaction with customers at work and people around town I am “sir”, “he” and “young man” to everyone without question. I’m good.
Hey, I really hope you can help me. I'm going to see a doctor on monday to see if I can see a gender therapist but I have no idea what to say!
I have no idea how to word it, or what will happen afterwards ><
Would really appretiate your advice!
You can access gender therapy directly, you don’t need to go to a doctor unless you’re saying that you want your doctor to do your hormone readiness assessment. The assessment is not therapy, it is a medical diagnosis of GID. Things may work differently in your area, though, I’m just speaking from my own experience.
I am hoping that maybe you can share a little advice. I am pretty much making myself sick with fear and anxiety over this and I don't really know what to do.
I'm a 24 year old male, I got my top surgery done about a year ago. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for four years now. She has been with me every step of the way. This weekend is the first time though that I am going back home to see her parents in about two years.
They were so accepting in the beginning when they saw us as just being "lesbians" however I am afraid that they will look down upon the fact that I am transgender. We haven't told them because we wanted to let them know face to face. I really love and respect her parents.
On top of it she is really close to them and I don't want how they feel to affect our relationship if they are not accepting. I am just so worried.
Any advice you can offer would be great. I mean, you have a girlfriend right? Do her parents know about you and how did they react? did you even tell them? Should I tell hers?
This was my fear too. Prior to my girlfriend’s parents knowing I assumed that they would react badly and label me a “freak”. However it didn’t turn out that way. My girlfriend’s mom worked at a pharmacy and had a number of trans patients come in for their hormones so she knew more than the average person about the medical side of transitioning. She was very accepting, and although my girlfriend’s dad didn’t understand (which is normal, some people cannot wrap their heads around the feeling of being born the wrong sex), he makes an effort to call me “he” and Lucas.
If your girlfriend can talk to her parents beforehand that may be easier, explaining the basics such as “______ is not ______, he has always felt mentally and psychologically male and he is taking hormones and has had surgery to align his mind with his body.” Is a good starting point. They will likely have questions, and they likley won’t be on the ball with pronouns and a new name at first either. But I’m sure you know that those things will come with time as they adjust.
I was wondering if you had any advice on the proceeding subject, but if not that's okay.
So, in high school I fell for my best friend (basically the whole cliche lesbian cycle). It was through my feelings for her (basically gave my heart to a relationship that I never knew would work, cause she is straight) that I began to uncover my attractions to those around me. It's been over a year since I came out to her, she was fine with it but then completly cut me out of her life. I was really down and basically tried to end my life. Though, at the moment I have no intentions if ever ending my life, because I love life. It's just that I've never been in a relationship (19) and I have been asked out by girls I like. I just feel like I can't move on from my ex-bf, that somehow along the way I've shut myself out and now it's too painful to be in any relationship. I feel like I have this huge stone wall around the place where my heart used to be. I want to fall in love, I want to give relationships a chance I just don't know how to figuratively break down the walls and put my heart back together.
When your heart’s been broken it can be very hard to put it back together again. It’s like zeroing out: confidence, composure, self-worth, emotions, sociability, appetite, trust, energy… they all go down to zero and you have to reboot.
Individualize your bf, she was a person, she does not represent an ideal or a group of people. Not all girls will be like her, nor will they be better or worse, just different and unique (as humans are).
If it didn’t work out with her, then it was never meant to work out and the one for you is still out there. It can only get better from here!
I'm sorry if I'm troubling you by writing/asking you this. And if you don't want to reply please don't force yourself. I don't want to be a drag.
But.. I'm a really shy person, and I think too much.
I can't say that your my idol or anything like that, but you seem like a really nice and friendly human (I don't know you in person, so I can't be sure of that) but..
I'm a failure in math... it's not because I'm too lazy to study, but it just that... I don't get math... At all.
And I'm really worried that one day I will hit my head in the wall from all the stress and stuff.
It's not like I'm putting pressure on you to calm me down.
I just don't know what should I do...
I'm a really lost and confused child so... I just felt like I need to tell someone this...
I struggle with math too. I can’t even add or subtract simple numbers in my head without using my fingers. Some people just aren’t good at things, we we have to work twice or three times as people who are good at math. It’s a challenge. I had to get a C+ or higher in my foundations math class in university a few years ago. I went for extra help every week and did all my homework. Repetition is the key, that’s why math homework is so important, the more you do it the better you’ll remember how to do it. Math isn’t really something you can read over once and understand or be able to piece together later (which is what English and History are to me). For people who are more literarily minded it’s very abstract.
In regards to the post about trans marriage and it being considered same sex, the person should probably realize that trans people come in different sexualities as well. And while a straight ftm could marry a girl and in some states it would be considered gay, in those same states if he married a guy it could be considered gay as well. That's why my bf and I can't get married. He's an FTM and I'm a Cissy and we're considered gay when it comes to marriage.
Very good point. I’m sorry to you and your boyfriend, it’s a terrible thing to bar two people in love from getting married. Especially when we know that gender and sexuality are so complex, even where it seems the most “basic”.