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Hair loss for FTMs is more likely than with cisguys, reason being because we have two X chromosomes (the chromosome that has male pattern baldness). There are some treatments to slow hair loss though (medications and creams). 

It’s perfectly fine if this is a put off point for you. Some guys don’t want the side effects that come with T, so they choose not to take it. You can transition without taking hormones.

30th (or 40th? can’t recall) Anniversary Cheesecake from the Cheesecake Factory :3

Here’s the thing about being drunk, when we’re drunk we have no filter, it doesn’t mean a drunk person speaks the truth. It’s more like speaking in brain garbage… for example, I once told a friend (while under the influence): “hugging you is like hugging fudge”. To this day I can’t fathom how that can possibly make any sense.

There are a few possibilities:

1. He’s, as you said, in denial and scared. In this case All you can do is tell him that you’ll support him no matter what and leave it at that. You can’t force someone out of their denial, and it’s especially problematic to do this in terms of gender. Neutral support is the best support (in my opinion) to give to someone who is questioning/beginning looking into transition: “I’ll support you either way” or “your gender doesn’t really matter to me, it’s YOUR gender and you are you.”

2. He not even conscious of his gender dilemma… which means that things just aren’t resonating in him yet. It’s still a thought and feeling that’s hiding in his subcionsious. Same best course of action applies here as in the above case.

3. He was drunk and it didn’t mean anything. But again, same best course of support here as well.

It’s wonderful that you want to help him out, but the best thing you can  do is voice your support and leave it be. This is something that he has to figure out in his own. As long as he knows that you’re open to it, open to talk about it and there for him if and when he wants to talk about it then all the bases have been covered. :)

Hey Jamie,

I’m so glad to hear back from you :) I’m even more glad that you were able to move past all the classification, cliques, terminology and social pressures and just be yourself. That’s an enormously brave thing to do in my opinion.

I wish you the best, and thank you for the kind message!

I’m in University, so it’s a bit of a different situation. I transitioned at the end of my 2nd year so at the beginning of my 3rd year I started school as male. All I did was change my preferred name and gender in my student account (cause my school allows people to do this) and emailed all my profs for that semester to let them know that I was trans and I would appreciate them using my preferred name and pronouns. I didn’t have a single issue. I only saw about 5 students in my upper division courses that I had met as female, but even then I didn’t have to explain anything. They just made the switch, I assume that they just assumed that they were remembering me wrong from last semester. I never had to explain myself, I was just a guy. Albeit everyone thought I was a boy genius (they all think I’m 15 because I look younger than I am…).

It may be a good idea to get in contact with your teachers first. Tell your friends (of course) and also try to tell any classmates you might be able to contact via Facebook (or something). Just explain that you’re transgender and undergoing hormone therapy so they might see some changes in you come September. Make sure to mention that you would appreciate them calling you “he” and “your name”. If you’re comfortable, add that if they have any question they should feel free to contact you. People will have questions, and I’ve always found that it’s better to keep the lines of communication open, otherwise people feel uncomfortable and may be prone to misguided statements. 

Best of luck to you!

I’d LOVE to. But, as always, it’s a money issue. We just don’t have the money to buy plane tickets to fly over there :(

Hey there,

If it scares you then coming out isn’t something you HAVE to do in the form of “I want to be a tomboy”. Just be a tomboy. You may want to ask your friends and family to use a nickname as well. Dress the way you want, and let it be a gradual process.

Being a tomboy carries no permanence or medical risks with it, so the fear of it “not working out” isn’t really relevant here.

The way I came out was mostly non-verble. Over the course of years I explored my comfort zone and adapted to it without confiding what my identity was to anyone. You’d be surprised at how some people will catch on without you saying anything. Furthermore, I think it becomes easier to come out when the people around you have “seen it coming” so to speak.

I hope everything works out :)

I dance to the beat of my own drum. There’s a lot of flailing and rolling involved, occasionally I thrust pelvically but that’s always short lived.

XD but yeahh I don’t dance and I found that gif on someone else’s blog and thought it was really cool. I WISH I COULD DANCE D:

Val and I are the only college kids in FDP. Aside from that everyone works hard full-time to earn money, and Val and I work equally as hard at part-time jobs when we’re not in school.

I am also lucky enough to be from a wealthy family, so my parents give me a financial cushion that allows me to live the way I do.

The money we spend on cons and travelling is in lieu of the money that others spend on going to clubs, booze, shopping… you name it. The travelling also isn’t really that expensive. We drive of bus down to Washington twice a year and we fly down the California once a year.

Love it. One of my top cons. It has never failed to impress! 

We don’t have our flight itinerary yet but we’re planning to be there about 2 weeks. After the con we’re planning to train down to France for a few days too :)

See you soon! Just over a month away!!!

I honestly don’t really have one. If I read a question and I can formulate an immediate response, I answer it then and there. If it’s a question I read and I feel that I have to mull it over and then return to it then it may or may not be answered before oftentimes I lose track of questions I was intending to answer. 

However, what I look for most is questions that can apply to other people. If I feel like the question may be relevant to others, then I’ll post an answer.

I just found out about it today. My heart goes out to the victims and their families in Oslo and Utoya. I’m reading that many of the victims on Utoya were teenage campers—-what an absolute tragedy. 

Hello there!

If you can buy a binder I highly suggest it. It’s the safest way to bind and is pretty comfortable. http://ftm.underworks.com/ The first binder on the page is the best in my opinion. It will also help with binding your midsection as well (also helpful for crossplay to decrease curves). 

I hope you find something that works for you :)