Hey man, we briefly met at Cos and Effect last August, but I doubt you would remember me so LET ME JUST GET TO THE POINT UH... I'm in a Family Studies class right now that is going to talk about gender/gender identity/trans*folk because it's a subject that both the teacher and I are very passionate about... I was wondering, if we get the okay for it, (and if you're up to it) if you might be willing to come in and talk to the class about your experience? Just thought I'd ask. :) If not it's okay.
For sure, I’d be happy to!
Just let me know the day ahead of time so I can get the day off work. :)
Lucas, I have a friend who refuses to accept my transition(FtM), because he believes the T will change me into a different person. (I haven't noticed this at all in your transition, or anyone else's, and I've tried explaining that to him, but he doesn't listen well.) Rather than talking to me about it, he has been going around our school (where I am trying to go stealth), and telling people that I'm a girl. I tried calling him out on it, but it made it worse...what do I do now?
Don’t “call him out” (in the sense that you shouldn’t approach him with anger), tell him that this is hurting you and that it will ultimately hurt his friendship with you if he continues. If he has issues with the prospect of your transition, ask him to clarify what they are and try to clarify them for him. He may be unwilling to listen, however if that’s the case then it may be best of dissasociate. If your mind is made up on transitioning then it’s either something he will have to tolerate in time or it is something that he will never tolerate and thus the friendship is doomed to fail anyway.
Don’t be mad, just be frank and lay it out on the table for him. Either this works, or it doesn’t. You can’t force him to feel a certain way about your transition and he can’t force you to feel a certain way about your transition. Therefore, the only plausible solution is for him to completely ignore your transition, you to completely ignore his lack of respect for your transition or for one of you to make a compromise.
hey! Been a big fan of urs for a while and you always give awesome advice, so I was wondering if you could help me out? I'm a cisguy and I've been with my girl for about 3 yrs. She's always acted like a guy, and I've always felt more comfortable thinking of her as male. I would like to bring it up, but I don't know how... Strange, I guess, but I love her and yet feel bad when I introduce her as my gf. But at the same time I don't want her to b offended or think I'm suddenly into guys. Help? Thx
You can bring up the issue of transguys/transgirls, transition or gender variance in casual conversation as a way of just letting her know that you’re ok with it. However this is not something to be attributed to someone by speculation. It’s important that, if you girlfriend does feel this way, she determines it and comes to that conclusion through her own devices. you can probably see how suggestion from you might sway her feelings on such a deeply personal topic.
This would be my suggestion anyway. Just let her know that you’re open to the issue on a whole and let her digest that.
Y are only you and Nova invited to Alcon and Bazai?
It’s the same reason that Jenn and Kelly (from Parle Productions) are the only ones out of their group invited to cons… Money. I’d love if all of FDP could attend, but it’s very expensive to pay for 7 people’s hotel, much less long-distance airfare for 7 people.
when your working has anyone ever walked in and was lik OMG TWINFOOLS !!!?
Not “OMG TWINFOOLS”, more like a very respectful and polite “are you twinfools?” or “do you have a DA/Youtube” followed by the former question. It’s happened a fair few times at work XD my co-workers find it funny.
Does wearing a binder damage the tissues in our chest? Cause I'm 36B and planning to cosplay male characters... Hope this makes sense with my English...
It can, but this damage is really more of a concern with long-term and heavy binding. Don’t wear a binder to bed and don’t bind too tight (if it hurts, loosen it). Also invest in a binder if you can (from Underworks or T-Kingdom) as these garments are made for the purpose of safe binding.
Hey, I'm an FTM and I wonder if you know what happens if you stop with the T? I know you have to take it life out and that somethings won't change back even if you stop... But what happens if you actually do stop... Like if you would stop now, what would happen?
You can stop taking it at any point (thought you should wean off it, not stop cold turkey). Some things will reverse, others will not, and some only partially.
Things like deep voice, facial/body hair, male pattern balding will not revert back.
Things like muscle, body fat redistribution, menstruation, acne will revert back.
However it’s not a very well studied topic, so there isn’t much solid research.
Hi twin I felt the need to ask you this, I am a girl and I also like a girl but I'm straight, it's just different with her, ONLY her, she knows I like her and I'm really intimidated to talk to her, idk what to do help!!
If she knows, then it’s not like you’re going to surprise her. Try talking to her, and don’t feel that the conversation has to be serious and stressful. Talk about it openly and let her know what your feelings are toward her but also assert that you’re not pressuring her in any way. You’re just laying your feeling out on the table and being truthful with her. If she becomes uncomfortable with the concept of you liking her, also remind her that this isn’t a light switch. You aren’t suddenly a different person and you won’t treat her a different way. It’s been true all along the only difference is that now she knows the nature of how you feel.
Hello Twin, I'm sixteen and I've been on testosterone for about three weeks now, tomorrow will be my 4th shot. I do subcutaneous shots once a week. I was wondering if it's normal to get bumps around the injection site? For me, it turns red and you can feel a small bump. It goes away after a while, but I was wondering if this is something I should be concerned about?
I don’t get red bumps and redness around the injection site. I’m not sure but I think that might be an allergic reaction, it’s something you should bring up to your doctor for sure. Next time it happens take a photo of it and bring it in to show your doctor. It might not be anything to be concerned about, but best be safe rather than sorry :)
What is the biggest disappointment in your life as a(girl) Compared with your life as a (boy) ? Sorry if I offended you in any way. :)
It’s all one life dude. I’ve just had 2 puberties, that’s all XD No worries no offence taken at all :)
I’d say my biggest disappointment is not getting to know my Grandma better. After her death I’ve heard so many stories from my aunts and uncles about her that have really brought to light a side of her I never knew. She was a far more tolerant, accepting, caring and strong woman than I ever could have fathomed. Ironically I think she would have accepted my “differences” far more readily than the grandparents I chose to confide in.
hey it's me stephanie well... I wanted to ask since you're a transgender do you have now a laryngeal prominence? and if a boy turns into a girl does he loses his laryngeal prominence? sorry if it's a stupid question... (by the way you don't need to answer if you think it's tooo much stupid ok) :|
I do have a bit of an adam’s apple. Testosterone causes cartilage to grow, which is how adams apples are formed in men. When an MTF takes estrogen, the adams apples does not go away because the cartilage has already grown. They undergo surgery to shave down the adams apple.
I hope I don't sound too ignorant with this question. I've been thinking of how to word it for a while. XD; I was wondering, could it have been possible for you to know that you are male, have a male's mind, act like a male, dress, accept yourself as male. Without having to change your body significantly? Not have a sex-change surgery and pills? I saw an interview with the model Andrej Pierj and he says that he considers himself transgendered, but he doesn't feel the need to change himself much.
Many transpeople don’t feel that they want or need medical intervention, and rightly so. Medical transition is NOT the first or only solution to gender dysphoria. It is very much a last resort in my opinion, because it is such a drastic step that involves significant changes that permeate to multiple facets of an individuals health and life.
Transgender is an umbrella term that refers to many different people who “transcend gender” in some way. Transgender is not a term that specifically refers to people who transition medically, it also refers to two-spirited people, bi-gender, androgynous, third gender etc. etc.
In my personal experience, transition was necessary in order for me to be able to live as a man. Hormones and surgery allowed me to shed an outer skin in which I was quite literally trapped, so to speak.
This question is not ignorant at all, so no worries :)
Hi! Sorry that I'm doing this anonymously, but I'm just way to shy to sign in... Anyways, I just wanted you to know that you're a big inspiration to me and that I admire you a lot. That's all... :-) I hope that you're having a great time when you read this, and please keep being awesome! -Devoted Fan
Aw :) Thank you so much! I’m very honoured!
And great time? I’M HAVING A BLAST XD! My ass fell asleep 40 minutes ago and I’ve been sitting on the floor next to a plug in a hallway at my school killing time before my lecture and doing some (and by some I mean I read something… I think) homework and messing around on the Nets of Inter!
Twinfools, I choose you! :D Well-I choose you to answer my question and help me out a bit ;D I saw that you and Nova had cosplayed Sailor Moon. I, myself, wish to cosplay Mini Moon as my first bought cosplay. Unfortunately-I have no idea who to trust with buying cosplay. I looked at Ebay but found it worrisome since there are scams and not all the cosplay end up looking like the picture : ( I am so very lost... Do you make most of your cosplays or have a few main buying places? If so-share? :D
We made ours, so I can’t direct you to a seller whom I can gaurentee will deliver a good product. However, I can tell you to check a few key things before you buy:
1. FEEDBACK. Check the feedback comments and the customer satisfaction percentage.
2. Pictures. You will sometimes see pictures from the internet/other sellers that have been stolen by sellers. Don’t trust these sellers.
3. Cost. If it’s 20$ for a full costume… something might be amiss. Don’t go for a bargain, go for a cost that makes sense because you are getting what you paid for.
Also, you might want to try a private costume commissioner. Specifically one with a portfolio of their work.
Just wanna say it was soo great to meet with you today and talk and stuff!! I throuoghly enjoyed it,thanks for making the effort to host the meet-up and letting me give you so much hugs stand by saying you give nice firm hugs! ;) Hope we can meet again in the future! -Amina! :D
Hey Amina! It was so awesome to meet you! Thanks for coming to the meetup. I’m sorta mad that it rained, so I hope you didn’t get a cold!
I hope that we can return to England to see you again :) Until then, keep in touch!!!! =D
Hello Luscas, my boyfriend and I just started cosplaying and our concern is that is there an age that its considered too old to cosplay? We felt that we started late in the game and that we're both just reach our 21 year milestone, and that we feel that we need to rush our cosplay dreams and goals before we get too old for cosplay. Thank you so much for your time :)
I’m 22, and most of my cosplay friends are older than I am. I know people in their 30’s and 40’s that cosplay often and pull out incredible cosplays. Cosplay isn’t really a hobby tailored specifically for kids, if you think about it, because of the money required TO cosplay. So if you think about it that way then age isn’t really something you need to battle against here XD Of course it’s probably a good idea to consider moving the age of the people you cosplay as you age.
Well i know the answere will be a no but if i didnt ask i would never know, nothing ventured nothing gained! is it at all possible that you can make the meet up go on till later?? I cant get there because of work. I am seriously bummed it seems to be dominating my life...
I’m not sure about the timing actually. It’s hard to plan something when you have no cell phone! XD I’m sure that we will not be there later than 5, though. Sorry if you can’t make it :(
Hopefully we’ll be back in England sometime soon so we will get to meet you if we don’t get the chance this time!
continuing, my plan it's just talk to you, because some people are fan of lady gaga or brad pitt I'm yours so I want to talk LOL anyway I've tried my best to speak english and not make so many mistakes, you see I'm a really young teacher oh and also I'm a girl haha I forget that english does not show the gender depend on the words you say, again don't bother reply I'm just talking nonsense because I'm your fan by the way my name it's stephanie that's something I should had said earlier hehe so..
Hey Stephanie! :) I think that your English is very good :) It must be pretty cool to be an English teacher, though stressful I’d imagine since English is such a hard language to learn. SO many rules and all of them broken all the time! XD
I’m honoured that you like my work :)That’s an incredible thing to hear!