Part 3 - they got him living right here at my house with the hope of “Fix me” I guess and my girlfriend and I got into a big fight over him, my father yell her at the streets and threatened with through her over jail, not only that, my ex keeps messing with my trying to get me back… I’m a mess, my girlfriend and him got into a verbal fight that almost ends bad, she is telling me to ran away from home with her but I’m really afraid because of my parents…
Part 4 - I don’t know what to do, I love her so much, I read before that you and Nova also have troubles, and you said that the path to love never run smoothly and stuff, please… give me some advice, should I ran away? I’m really against a wall, I’m chooking and no one help me. Sorry for the long, long story….
Anon I didn’t get your part 1 :( From what I’ve read, though, the issue seems to be with you and your family, not you and your gf. By trying to “fix you” by forcing you together with your ex they have effectively created a terrible situation for you and your well-being.
I don’t know how old you are, I don’t know your financial situation and i don’t know your options.
However, it sounds like your parents are not in a position to be reasoned with. Are there people you can stay with who are sympathetic to you? Grandparents? Uncles/aunts? Cousins? Family friends? Your gf’s family? Anyone who would be able to take care of you if you are still in school or house you while you make a transition to living on your own.
Do not cut off ties with your family, and what I mean by this is try your best not to cuss them out and run out the front door.
Approach them with a plan, get your “escape plan” all set out beforehand. Tell them how their treatment of you is making you feel. Tell them how them forcing your ex on you makes you fell. Then, tell them that this is an abusive situation for you to be in and tell them that you will have to leave if they can’t compromise with you or accept you as a person and not as a doll that can be forced into the role that THEY want. Maintain that you are a good/hardworking person (have good grades, good at sport, volunteer, babysit, don’t do drugs, good manners… basically qualities that you can bring up to them so that they can’t argue that you are any sort of “dead beat” or heading down that path). They may react badly, so have a SAFETY plan for this. Have someone you trust nearby, preferably outside with a phone waiting to escort you away if you have to leave at this point (or call the cops, again I don’t know the particulars of your situation).
If you can please send me a note so we can keep in touch. You aren’t alone.