Just a random question but I was curious. After you started T did you feel more energetic and active?
At first I felt like I needed more sleep than I did before. My energy/activity level did increase but I really can’t attribute that to T (at least not alone), it was more likely my exercise regime and the fact that I started working out 7 days a week.
I'm Pansexual and i really really REALLY wanted to go to my city's Pride celebrations, but i was too afraid to go because i didn't want to be judged because i'm in a heterosexual relationship. My boyfriend happens to be bisexual, so he said he wanted to go to Pride too, but had the same worries as me. How should we go about this? D:
I’m in a heterosexual relationship, and I’m a straight guy… I go to Pride. Pride is an inclusive event and idea, if you look at advertising for it it should say something along the lines of “everyone welcome” or “for LGBTQ and allies”. I go because it’s my city’s most exciting public event (longest parade too XD) and because I support the LGBTQ community. In addition, you self identify as pansexual, so you are part of the LGBTQ umbrella if you so wish to identify that way. Being in a heterosexual relationship doesn’t revoke your identity.
dear twin, I don't know if you can help me with this but.... I have never been in love so I don't know if I am straight, gay or bi... but lately i've been noticing that I like FTM transgenders... what does this mean?
It means whatever you want it to mean. Love isn’t a science, neither is orientation. It just happens, and it happens differently for everyone. If you’re attracted to FTMs, then you’re attracted to FTMs. You can consider yourself anything you want, or nothing if you don’t feel like an orientation label covers you. If people ask you, you CAN say “don’t know” or “don’t care, whatever happens happens”.
I know a girl who considers herself bi, but she has a preference for FTMs. I find that most people’s sexualities are this way…far more complex than an umbrella term could possibly convey.
But I gotta ask, is this a problem? It doesn’t sound like it, it sounds more like you’re noticing certain people sexually which happens to everyone. It’s going to be confusing, but coming into one’s sexuality always is regardless of one’s orientation. Let it confuse you, and remember that this isn’t a math problem that you have to solve with a definitive answer. This is an ever in-flux, ever changing essay that you’ll be writing your entire life. :)
Heya Twin, I'd just like to know if you think male influence in a child's life can affect their gender identity. I don't mean to offend or upset or trigger anyone, I'm simply curious because all three of my FTM friends have had an overall negative experience with their major male figures (fathers, older brothers etc)
Maybe it’s statistically prevalent in the FTM population, I don’t really know. However I myself haven’t had negative experience with male figures in my life.
Hi, I am having some trouble, I have just recently started identifying as bisexual (after much consideration and help from a good friend) and well I like this girl, this girl is a very good friend of mine which makes this difficult for me. I don't think she is gay or bi or willing to go out with other girls though she has never stated her sexuality as just straight. But I really like her! I am currently at the point where I have started dreaming about her going out with me, any help please? :(
Hello! It’s the same as with any other relationship, Anon. Gay, straight, bi, asexual doesn’t matter, you gotta ask if you want to know. If you sit down with her and tell her calmly “hey, I really have to tell you something, this is the way I feel about you. How do you feel about me?” you can open up a dialogue. You may get shot down, or you two may realize that you’ve both been gunning after each other for a while now XD Point is, you’ll remain in limbo if you just scratch your head and worry about the “what if’s” at the start line. Run the race, see how it goes. Even if you lose at least you’ll be able to move on with your life and gain a little clarity from the whole ordeal :)
I KNOW it’s tough. It gives me the shakes. But it’s the same sensation as the one you get before a huge championship game or before going on stage. She’s your friend, so talk to her like a friend and let her know that you have feeling for her that are rising a little above the friendship level.
Sooo this is a stupid question I know, but I've been seeing this been ask a lot lately and never gets answer, so I thought I may try asking as well and see what if I got luck: Where's Nova? Why isn't she in Kingdom bros episodes and why we don't see her in any videos lately? We kinda miss her T_T
Hello :) Nova films a lot of stuff, and sometimes scripts and ideas just work out so that not everyone has an acting part to play. In Kingdom Bros, specifically, it just so happens that her part hasn’t happened yet. She will be playing a role, starting next episode, but for the last two episodes she was filming :)
I'm FtM and have a friend who's MtF, she's only just starting trying to live as female but her parents don't agree with it, they wont let her grow her hair, shave or pluck her eyebrows, they burn any female clothes they find (I hide her clothes at my house) She's only 16 so has to live with them, she's tried to tell them for 3 years she's trans but they wont accept it. Because of her parents she's not really able to live as female. I'm trying to help, do you have any advice at all? Thanks :)
That’s really tough :( I’m sorry for your friend. Unfortunately there’s little a person can do when parents go on the offensive in terms of trying to force their child out of being trans. It’s a common reaction, and it’s a pointless one because all it does it alienate the child and make them less likely to consider their parents sympathetically in their lives. They’re reacting out of desperate fear, because society is fucked up and they’re worried about their own futures (grandchildren, wedding, pre-set images of their child’s future) and the opinions of others (what will the neighbours think). Of course, all of these things are selfish, and eventually her parents might come to see that a parent’s job is to give their child the chance to become a happy/healthy person, not to constrict and mould them into a shape they deem to be fit (like a doll).
At least she can keep some of her clothes at your house. Many trans-people from un-accepting homes live “part-time” as their desired gender. I did something similar to this in that I would dress an present as male when I went out. She could look into wigs, if growing her hair out simply isn’t possible. However it is up to her to assess what is “safe” for her to do in terms of pushing the envelope at home. Support her, and provide her with situations and environments where she can be herself.
I know it’s frustrating, but sometimes parents and home situations simply aren’t conducive to transitioning. This doesn’t mean that her parents will never tolerate her transition or gender identification, however it will likely take some time.
Twin, I think their point was less that legitimate trans people would use changing rooms and that non trans rapists would take advantage of the fact that you can use the change room of your choice
The issue here isn’t making sex-segreagated spaces more stringent. As I said before, a woman can be raped or molested by another woman in a change-room. The issue here is about the crime of rape. To say that a transwoman has to have her rights to use the restroom in public taken away because of something that is not her fault is not fair.
There are no gates, sensors or police checking bathrooms at the door. A man in a dress with intention to rape can do into a bathroom now even without gender-fluidity regulations in place. The question isn’t whether or not you can “use the change-room of your choice”, in that case they’d be considered “unisex”. The question here is whether or not people who live their lives in a gender other than that of which their sex and body characteristics might reflect.
I recently had an argument with someone weather trans* people should be allowed in the dressing room of their choice or not. The person said that if they allowed any guy in a dress who says they're a girl into the women's changing/bathroom then a woman could get raped or murder etc. Do you have a good response to that? I'm a woman, and I'd be fine with a transwoman in the locker room, but they unfortunately have a good point.
Do they really have a good point? Sex segregation of spaces only makes sense if everyone is heterosexual. However we KNOW that some girls like girls and some guys like guys, therefore sexual scandal and gaze could happen regardless of who changes with who. A woman in a woman’s change-room can still be raped by another woman. I’ve heard of men getting raped in men’s change-rooms by other men (LOOK AT PRISON).
The argument that a ‘guy in a dress could go in and rape women’ is a commentary on masculinity and men in our society, not on transpeople. You never hear someone say ‘what if a girl in jeans comes in here and rapes all the guys’. This “fear” is unfounded and essentially makes transpeople the scapegoat for more pressing issues in society. I have never heard of a single incident of a transwoman raping a woman, but I hear of many incidents of men raping women, sometimes even entering a sex-segregated space (change-room/washroom) to do so.
If I had to go into a change-room of my biological sex I’d be in a women’s change-room. I pass as male. I have no breasts. I have body hair. I have a deep voice etc. etc. I can’t imagine it’d be even remotely acceptable for me to be in a woman’s-only space. My body is different from everyone else’s in said women’s change-rooms and I’m sexually attracted to the female sex. Nothing about me being in there makes sense considering why sex-segregated spaces are segregated to begin with.
Hey Lucas. This is a very personal question and I'll understand if you chose not to answer it. I was wondering if your clitoris has increased in size since taking T and if so was it a lot? This is something that worries me a little and kind of puts me off taking T. I'm not really planning on bottom surgery (Though that might change in the future) and I'm more uncomfortable with me chest, voice and girlish features so I'm not certian I'd be comfotable with my clitoris changing like that.
It has definitely happened, and it’s one of the changes I was personally looking forward to the most. They say that usually it reaches the “apex” of grow at 2-5 years. The general range of growth is estimated to be 3-8 cm.
You can’t pick and choose the changes you want, so if dick growth is something you’d adverse to it might be worth it to consider if going on hormones is something that needs to happen for you. There’s a wealth of info out there about alternatives to taking hormones and/or getting surgery, so those might be at least worth a look. Best of luck, Anon!
SOBBING because a lot of the old FDP videos are gone now :( Things like the bad bromance and dying Sasuke's rope purple and a few other good ones are gone :'( I was wondering if you guys did that on purpose or if I should be mad at youtube for copyright claims and such. Love you, Twin, you're so amazing!
I wish we didn’t have to take them down, but because Youtube is extremely inconsistent about their rules and what they will and will not take down I took down everything that was likely to be claimed at any time.
We’ve been moving stuff that can’t go on Youtube to our Vimeo account, so you can check out that account and hopefully you’ll find the stuff you’re looking for ;) it’s still having stuff added to it, so it’s not everything that was taken down, that’s at least where Bad Boxmance and the other CMVs are :)
So this is probably the weirdest question ever, but I find that handwriting is almost always distinguishable between males and females, and I've always wondered if it was a matter of nature or nurture. Given the anatomy you were born with but given that you are in fact male, how do you feel that your handwriting rates? Is it noticeably masculine? Did it ever change, or is it sort of indistinguishable either way?
My handwriting is scribbles unless I really concentrate on it. It’s sort of like doctor’s handwriting, which is why I do notes on the computer XD Is that what makes writing masculine? I don’t know. All I know is that my writing is not aesthetically pleasing haha
I used to try to make it look really good in grade school, but I couldn’t keep up with class lectures that way so over time it seemed to deteriorate. I started the school year with nice notes that gradually became more and more scribbly. In high school I stopped trying and just accepted my jotted, slanted, scribble style.
I don’t know if there is a distinguishable difference of writing styles according to gender… but that’s what my writing looks like.
I'm sorry this might be too personal but I look up to you a lot and I'm currently starting on t and I just want the period to be gone. I can handle binding and passing but for those couple of days it gets bad. Around what time to you think it will stop or did yours?
I had 2 periods after starting T, so that was approx. 2 months. It’s impossible to say exactly when it will stop, but it will stop soon!
I don't know if this is personal or not, but didn't you feel a little wierd going shirtless the first time when you were so use to always wearing something over your chest?
Yes and no…
Yes because the sensation was very much akin to taking off a bandaid after wearing it for a while. It was like two huge pieces of medical gauze had been removed from my chest after 20 years, so in that sense it was very surreal. But it didn’t feel even remotely unnatural. It just felt like “good to see you, natural body!”.
I think you should cosplay from the Avengers. Loki? Or Thor?
I’ve been planning to :) But the issue is that I actually want to at least ATTEMPT to have more musculature before I do it. It’s a personal training goal I’ve set. Even if it’s an impossible goal for my body type it’s still something I want to work up to before I attempt the cosplay.
I wouldn’t even try Thor, because I know I could never even remotely do that justice. Those arms… I don’t look a thing like Loki so that’d be a tough one for me too. But all in all I’ve decided that I want to cosplay my favourite Avenger: Captain America. And you all may be thinking “wtf? Rogers? Really?” and my response is ‘I KNOW RIGHT!?” I never would have thought that that character would grow on me and become my favourite out of the group.
ESPECIALLY CONSIDERING THAT I’M CANADIAN
I’m working towards Steve. He’s in that pile of “cosplays I will do when I feel physically ready to do them”. Dean Winchester was in that pile for a while, but thanks to his bulky clothing I’m very close to re-doing that one. As for Steve, because of dat bodysuit, it’ll be a while longer before I’ll feel ready to “fake it” XD
It’s personal thing for me, I set training goals through cosplay. It’s part of my motivation! 8D