Hi! Right now, I'm really depressed and I haven't moved past my anxiety over telling people about it. I'm trying to and I'm on medication but I'm not better yet. I don't really know what to do because the feeling's kinda strong right now and no one is awake to tell me that it'll get better. Thank you, by the by! You helped me come out as panromantic and genderfluid and you're really awesome!
It will get better in time. It will be something you’ll have to live with and manage for a long time I’m sure, however this isn’t something that will have a stranglehold on your life. You’ve made huge strides in your life that you should be proud of by coming out :D so you deserve all the awesomeness cred, not me XD. Keep going, and keep in mind that depression doesn’t make you weird or negative. It’s a chemical imbalance in the body, that’s all. Remind your friends of the causes of depression and hopefully they will understand that it should be treated with the same respect with which you would treat anyone else with any other medical condition. This is nothing to be ashamed of, however you aren’t required to tell anyone about your private medical history either. The ball is always in your court my friend :)
I had a horrible dream that you died last night D: I don't know why? I wasn't even thinking about you all day but I woke up all upset!
I hope I died in a freak accident or something. Like, I was one of the Mary Poppins’ that flew in toe defeat Voldemort at the London Olympics Opening Ceremonies and my wire broke and I fell to the ground and impaled myself on my own glorious talking parrot umbrella. The parrot then sang “Spoon Full of Sugar” as I faded in obscurity.
Why can’t we just casually hang out with Fighting Dreamers Pro, or Parle?
But then again, there has to be people clapping on the sidewalk for the real heros.
You know what? I totally agree. That’s why I don’t like using the word “fan” when it comes to cosplaying. There are so many cosplayers who excel at so many different things and it seems like the line between who’s “well-known” and who’s not is obscure to say the least. I don’t have fans, I have peeps because that word is hip and doesn’t create some sort of power imbalance.
I’m just another cosplayer, and I love hanging out with people and thankfully what I post online has allowed me to meet SO MANY new and amazing people it’s an incredible blessing really.
Ello Twin:] I'm curious, if I were to send you a song, would you make an video with it if you like it? I would do it, but I don't have any cosplays or friends that would be into that sort of stuff, but I have the greatest idea for a video with the perfect song, but NO ONE to help me. If you listened to the song, you may get the same idea that I have, or generally the same. ehehe:]
I’d love to hear the song you have in mind!!! I can’t promise that we’d be able to get to it anytime soon considering the amount of projects (especially CMVs) we have sitting in our “to-do” pile *looks at them and shudders*… soon… sooooonnnnn
But yeah! I’d be totally down to listen to any song you might have an idea for! Even if I can’t come up with a CMV idea for it at the very least I love getting new song suggestions from people ;)
Hello Twin! Will you and the lovely people at FDP consider doing some videos for profit? I know you guys do this because it put smiles on the faces of everybody, but, as a fan, I would honestly love the fact that, by enjoying your videos, I am monetarily benefiting you guys. You've inspired so many people with your character and I wish I could give you something tangible in return beyond my gnat-like attention span. AND it'd be easier for you to buy more cosplay things to use *cough* *cough* <3
We decided at the outset of starting FDP that we weren’t ever going to be a for profit thing. Money was never a reason for making videos or doing cosplays, so it’s just not the right move for us. This is our hobby, and we do it for a love of performance and craft as well as to spread the love of fandoms and cosplay. I wouldn’t ever want to ask that people pay me their cash in order to see something that my friends and I do for fun.
Honestly, I already do profit from it because of all the amazing support, feedback, messages, love and even convention invites that I’m lucky enough to receive because of what we post online. That kind of profit is already enormously generous.
I should look into doing some more charity drives, though. I’d be totally into raising money through FDP to give to charities. We’ve done two, but we didn’t really know what we were doing the first time and the second time we didn’t organize it or anything, just went on air for an hour XD so I’d like to try it again!
Thank you so much for your message!! And I must say that I’m honoured by how supportive you are of us :3 but just by enjoying our videos and cosplays you’re giving us more that we could ever ask of you :)
I just wanted to let you know that you've been a huge help and inspiration to me in figuring stuff out with myself and becoming who I want to me. Thanks for posting progress stuff about your transition and generally being a really cool guy on the internet. Last year at AkiCon we were in the same elevator together and I didn't know who you were and it's weird that now you've made this impact on my life. If I knew who you were at the time I would've shook your hand.
First off, congrats on becoming the true you :3 that’s an enormous step to take, and it was all you bro, so you deserve a huge pat on the back for that ^_^ I’ll give you one in person if you’re at Aki Con this year!!! And we can shake hands too. Perhaps it’ll even be in an elevator again! PERFECT CIRCLE! I think it’s pretty likely since 70% of Aki Con is on an elevator. Those majestic machines, WE SALUTE YOU!
Hey, Twin! Just want to start off by saying that I love your cosplays and have been following them for several years now! You guys are an inspiration! Now, to my question. I've been wanting to get into cosplay for a while now (I've done a few small things in past). I know you guys usually make all your own costumes, which is what I want to do, too. But I've no idea how to even get started. Any advice?
Thank you so much for supporting us for all these years my friend ;)
Do you have a sewing machine? Do you have access to one? That’d be the first step. Then get someone to show you how to sew a basic shirt and pants. From that instruction/basic pattern you will be able to essentially make anything, you will just have the alter the basic pattern a little. There will be a pretty tall learning curve, so you might need help for your first few costumes. However, eventually, it does get much easier! You just have to hang on through the hoops of learning how to use the machine, cut out patterns, pin, sew, use things such as bias tape etc. Of course I’m giving you all this info assuming that you have someone who can teach you/help you out XD if you don’t have someone like that then sewing classes might be a good idea. Also, if you’re willing to self-teach, there are a fair few basic sewing tutorials online.
Oh! And don’t be afraid to mess up! Everyone has to start from somewhere, so don’t let mistakes get you down. Just use them as opportunities to improve and learn!
Best of luck to you! Can’t wait to see your costumes ;)
Hey Twin, my whole group of friends (also a cosplay group) are huge fans of you! Also, one of my best friends is FtM and calls on you for inspiration, so I wanna thank you for being constant inspiration, cos you kinda inadvertently helped him through a lot. Anywho, onto the question.. If you got an invite and were able to raise the funds, would you be interested in coming to Manifest in Melbourne, Australia next year? We'd love to meet you! :3
Hello to you and your cosplay group!
Thank you very much :) I’m so thankful to your guys for your support and I’m happy to hear that your friend could find something positive to draw on from my posts about my transition. Makes it all worth while to hear that what I post has helped someone in any way! 8D
We would definitely be 10000% interested 8D WE NEED OUR AUSSIES!!!
What does your Naruto wig feel like? Does it feel frayed, damaged, soft, hard? I bought a Naruto wig, and it feels frayed and damaged, although it is very easy to spike, so I was just wondering what your's feels like.
Mine’s pretty frayed. It feels like really fine wire. Usually, the easier the wig is the spike, the more “damaged” it is. A damaged wig is not necessarily a bad wig! :)
You're a very lucky person, Lucas. You were incredibly gorgeous as a girl and devilishly handsome as a boy. It takes a certain kind of person to look equally as beautiful no matter what they do. You're an inspiration for me. :D
They said “you don’t know you’re beautiful”… but you know what? THAT’S WHAT MAKES ME BEAUTIFUL
Thank you so much Anon! You are too kind ^_^ Me and my kawaii face are lucky to be with my gorgeous girl and to have people like you around them for all the support and general awesomeness. Maybe someday, with help from you guys, I’ll become a beautiful butterfly. But until then, caterpillar boy’s gonna breath into your ear while you sleep because he loves you :3
I just saw a picture of your Gundam cosplay. It looked great! But I was a little saddened to miss seeing Wufei (he's my favorite pilot). Actually, I'm just getting to watch the original anime. I missed out on it when I was kid, unlike my other friends (I'm the youngest of my friends, being 18; the rest of them are in their twenties). ^^;;; I got to episode 32 last night. So this made me really excited. You guys look great! Looking forward to seeing more!
Thank you very much!!! We’re excited to be doing more Gundam Wing, especially after we managed to convince a few of our friends to join in as well ;) I’m sad that we don’t have a Wufei too! Hopefully we will be able to find someone who would cosplay him so that we can have a complete Gundam pilot shoot, that would be AWESOME!!!
You might also be interested to know that this week we’ll be uploading a Gundam Wing skit >8D I hope you’ll like it!!
I missed out on a lot of the anime too, no worries, I feel you on that :( My mom didn’t want my brother and I watching too much of it because it was “too violent” (and because we couldn’t help ourselves from screaming “GENERAL SEX” whenever General Zechs was mentioned XD).
I’ve gotta do a full run through of that series one day soon! There are many episodes I’ve missed and I’m sure that my memory of the show is a little warped considering how long it’s been since I’ve watched it.
I’m glad to know that you’re a Gundam Wing fan!!! 8D UNITE IN FANDOM YEAH!
Hello! I was reading an article on transsexualism (I support LGBT rights), and the writer stated that in curing medical conditions involving body dysphoria, the goal is often to correct the condition rather than to alter the body (i.e. when someone wants to cut off their leg, doctors will try to cure the condition rather than cut off the leg), and this should apply to trans people as well. I just wanted to know what your opinion on this was. Thank you!
Hey there! Body dysphoria is not gender dysphoria, so essentially making that comparison is akin to saying that the cure for one disease is the same as the cure for another because they share one similar symptom. I really don’t agree with that… but that being said I can see where the argument is coming from. But in terms of trans people “correcting” would be trying to alter the brain and I think that given any choice between altering the brain or the body I’d choose body because otherwise you’re messing with what makes a person who they are.
I’d love to know the name of the article you read, though. If you still remember it or the author I’d love to give it a read :)
Hey Twin, sorry if this seems like a sudden and weird question, but I've been trying to purchase a chest binder for a while and I was wondering where a good place to look(or start looking) would be? Is there any way to figure out what size I would get?
Hello! I suggest looking at Underwork (http://ftm.underworks.com/) or T-Kingdom (http://www.t-kingdom.com/) for binders. They have a measurement size guide, so if you can measure your bust they’ll normally give you a recommended size right on the page. :)
Just a quick question! When you started T, did you get really bad acne? I sure am, ha ha :c
Hello! I’m sorry to hear about your bad acne, unfortunately it’s a pretty common side effect. I had a bought of really bad acne shortly after my first surgery, though this bought was almost like a rash because of it’s severity… never really did figure out what happened there but it took 6 months to go away and then all was well. Weird!
There are ways to deal with it. If you haven’t already you should look into adopting a really regimented face-washing routine. Morning and night! The stuff that my skin really likes and that may have helped my bad acne/rash clear up from last year is a product called “Exposed”. You gotta order it online, though, which is an annoying little downside.
Best of luck dealing with your acne! And also keep in mind that it may clam down over time, just like how puberty acne functions. Until then, I suggest finding a skin care regiment that works for you :)
Hiya Twin. :) I'm going to be cosplaying as Luke from Tales of Abyss. (Version 1) I'm looking for a wig that's in my price range and I can't seem to find one and I'm also sort of on a deadline. D': Any suggestions or tips to help me?
The wig I used doesn’t seem to be offered right now :/ the store I got it from is an Ebay store called “Fantasy Sheep”, and they often cycle the wigs they have available so it might be worth it to keep the tabs on them?
However, if you’ve got a time limit here, I can suggest trying a “Punky XL” style wig from cosplay.com/shopping in a red colour that is close to Luke’s hair. I haven’t styled this specific wig into Luke, however it would be my second choice so if you’re at a loss it might be worth a shot. it would require a fair bit of styling though, and I’m not sure if you are intending to style the wig or not. If not then this one looks pretty good: http://www.cosplaymagic.biz/tales-of-the-abyss-cosplay-wig-tales-of-the-abyss-luke-fon-fabre-cosplay-wig-long-version-p-2083.html
I’ve never ordered from them, so I can’t vouch for the site, but I hope that might help!
Best of luck!!! I hope to see your Luke cosplay when it’s done ;)
My friend, Rachel, and I would like to express our appreciation for everything that you and all the people at FDP have done. :D And we were also wondering if Nova could do a How to Sew Costumes and Whatnot tutorial because SHE IS FREAKING AMAZAAAHHH. We are constantly in awe of you two. (also you two would make super great parents sometime down the line) <(^_^)>
Hello Rachel and Anon XD Thank you so much! We’d like to express our appreciation to you guys for supporting us and for your wonderful message here! 8D
Sewing tutorials can be tricky, but I wouldn’t say it’s out of the question. We’d just have to figure out a way to do it that would be concise and not just filming house of monotonous work XD And of course it’d be up to Nova! But yes I agree! She has a great talent for sewing ;) I’ll pass that compliment along to her!
And on the subject of parenting, ironically we were just discussing that topic on our walk this evening! Thank you! I really love kids so I hope I’ll make a good dad :)
I have a problem. I really want to come out to my mom, but I'm terrified. She is one of the people I trust. I'm not sure I could take if she didn't love me anymore. I feel like I'm suffocating by not coming out. She has told my brother and I that she would accept us if we were gay, but she has made some rude coments about transgender people in the past. I don't know whether to stay in the closet even though it is killing me or risk coming out. I need some advice on what to do.
Hello Anon :)
It’s a terrifying thing to come out, no matter what the situation. You just never know how a person will react, though you can make an educated guess based on what you know. So what do you know here: she is someone you trust, that’s very positive. She has stated that she would support you if you were gay, not necessarily indicative of support of you if you were trans however it usually runs in a similar vein of thought. You also know that she has made some trans-negative comments, which can add a bit of a wrench to the system here however it does no necessarily mean that she is anti-trans. People make comments, rude comments, all the time. Especially if it’s about something that they don’t understand. People can also be rude without meaning to.
My advice is to perhaps ask her what she thinks on the subject up-front. This way you can really know what you’re getting to. If she acts negatively, and you feel that you may risk being kicked out or cut off if you come out, then it may be wise to look into things like alternative living arrangement beforehand as a backup in case things go bad. If she acts well, then that conversation might just be the perfect opening for you to ease into the topic. If confronting her personally is too terrifying (which it is for many people, no worries) you can write her a letter so that you can put all of your thoughts and explanations on paper beforehand. You can even give it to her to read and go to a friend’s house over the weekend, asking her to take a few days to let the information sink in before you two talk about it.
Keep in mind that her first reaction will not be her last. First reactions are often the result of shock, so they can be very extreme. Her opinion will likely settle over time, so also keep in mind that acceptance will likely not be immediate. Allow her some time, and know that transition happens for the trans-person and the people around them as well :)