Vancouver guy. Cosplayer. Runner and adventurer.
What’s your favourite series? Your favourite character? If you have a character in mind and aren’t comfortable with the costume they wear you can always alter it to suit yourself! People do this all the time with casual cosplay, AU versions, festival versions… etc!
Dysphoria is a lifelong thing for many folks. I still have “bad” body/appearance days when I get worried that something about my face or body looks too feminine.
But then I go to the bank and try to cash a cheque under my legal name and have to fight with all the bank staff who insist that I’m clearly a man and therefore cannot have a female name/an “F” on my file.
If I’ve learned anything it’s that you are your own worst critic. This applies to dysphoria as well as anything else in life. You will always see your own insecurities, but these details may be invisible to many people.
In short, I did get that in the first year, and I get that 5 years later as well. It something that may keep popping up, and it’s something that pops up for most people on a regular basis (regardless of dysphoria I’d think that MOST people have insecure or bad body image days).
I’d suggest finding a reliable healthy coping mechanism. For me it’s the gym or physical activity. For others it might be drawing, taking photos, going out with friends, shopping, or calls with trusted friends :)
Wearing a hat or toque might be an idea! Otherwise other passing tips such as binding your chest, wearing baggier shirts etc. may be applicable. There are guys out there with long hair after all.
In fact I’d suggesting Googling long-haired guys. Might give you some good ideas to try out :)
Sorry I can’t be of more help!
I used AquaColour (Krylon) with Ben Nye cream base for highlights/filling in and Ben Nye black powder for contouring :)
Hope that helps!