Anonymous asked
Hey, Lucas! I have a bit of a problem. See my older bro came out as gay (my family was okay about it) but the thing is, I'm really attracted to my ftm friend. As messed up as it is, I feel like I have to be the "straight one". I acknowledge that transgenders are the gender they identify with but parents are always worried about the "future" and all that. Any advice? D:

Would your parents be opposed in the same way if you were with a man who was sterile? Cause really, that’s effectually what he is, a sterile man. There are other ways to conceive a child.

You don’t have to be anything, Anon. The way you feel is how you feel. Your parents might be disappointed at first but it’s not your fault. The issue lies with them putting expectations on something that they have no control over. It’d like be me being disappointed that it’s not sunny on my birthday. Yeah it kinda sucks, but it sucks because I wanted it to be sunny so it was my expectation that has effected my mood, not the weather itself. 

If your parents do get upset, be patient and give them support and time to adjust. it’s unrealistic to expect them to just accept the situation, especially if they haven’t been exposed to transgender people. If they are accepting right off the bat then that’s great, but if they aren’t then it’s not the end of the world. Their first reaction will likely not be their last reaction :)

Best of luck!

  1. hapidjus said: Jesus your advice makes me cry. It’s so real and helpful and I love reading it. Thank you for being such a friggin just good person. The world could use more damn people like you.
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