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penis-hilton: hello friends i am here

Fri, 24 May 2013 22:46:06 -0400

penis-hilton:

hello friends i am here

gr0sse: wow can u believe she said this…….

Fri, 24 May 2013 12:53:43 -0400

gr0sse:

wow can u believe she said this…….

older-aang: baw-bee: sophieonpage: thegoddamazon: I present...

Fri, 24 May 2013 07:43:11 -0400

older-aang:

baw-bee:

sophieonpage:

thegoddamazon:

I present the most badass gifset on Tumblr.

Legitimately turned on by this

This is the best thing.

Why this cartoon is the best cartoon.

Last week I was on vacation with my family at Disney World and when we went through the O'Canada pavilion at Epcot, and after watching their short film about Canada, two girls were arguing with one another as to why you and Nova did not make the list of famous Canadians on their film.

Thu, 23 May 2013 22:15:41 -0400

OMFG are you serious? I’m kinda shocked at the chances of more than one person being in a room knowing us XD I wish I had been there, I would have creeped and lurked so bad XD

thank you so much for sharing this story!!! I wonder though who they listed as famous Canadians, curious to see that film at Epcot now

Hey twin My boyfriend is FTM and we've been going out for almost 2 years and although we have told his mother and been open with our relationship with her she completely ignores his feeling towards the situations and it seems like she goes out of her way to call him her beautiful girl in public I cant imagine how it makes him feel We are both leaving for the U.S. army in July and i wanted to know if u have any advice on how to get his mother to acknowledge his feelings before we ship out.

Thu, 23 May 2013 12:25:22 -0400

You cannot force someone to accept anything. The reason that many parents will ignore or disregard their child’s transsexualism is often denial and/or the notion that they can ‘curb’ the transsexualism by refusing to acknowledge it. This may well be something that she will continue to ignore until she sees that she no longer has the ability to ‘stop’ it.

he is leaving in 2 months, so at the very least his mother’s lack of support will not last very much longer. However I don’t believe that the US Army offers very much gender identity leniency either. this is assuming that he is entering the military under female identity. This may be another can of worms that he should consider that he will have to deal with in a highly gendered organization like the military.

Has he revisited the issue with his mother? There is really no trick to this, he will have to confront his mother again and tell her how he feels, that his feelings have not changed and that he does not foresee them changing, his intentions, his needs and most of all how her disregard for his identity makes him feel. She might, for the time being, do little more than get angry or sad. A resolution to this may be till be years down the line. But at the very least it will give her something to think about and perhaps even grow a little more accustomed to while he is away. time dilutes emotions and allows for more clarity and critical reflection.

he might have to revisit this issue each and every time he comes back home to see her.

How did you tell your boss you were transgender?

Thu, 23 May 2013 12:25:18 -0400

When I was transitioning I arranged a meeting with my boss and just told her flat out that I was transgender and was going to be starting hormones very soon. I requested to have my name and pronouns changed in the workplace and her and I hashed out a plan for that. The plan was that I would personally tell my coworkers (she offered to do it in a meeting but I was ok telling them all personally) and after everyone knew my boss would change my name on the schedule and from that point forward everyone was expected to call me ‘he’ and by my new name.

it worked perfectly. I literally came into work one day and everyone had flawlessly switched over. I never had any issues, and my boss informed me that if I did run into anything I was to inform her immediately and it would be dealt with.

at my last two jobs I interviewed as a male, so coming out was only necessary when dealing with legal documentation and banking stuff. In both of these cases I asked to speak to my boss before filling out these forums and let them know why my name would be different on these documents. My bosses just understood this as it was and it was never referenced again. In the case of my summer job last year only the coordinator and the accountant knew, and the accountant (a University wrestler of all things) was really good and tactful with it. He would hand me my paycheques with great care to ensure that the name on the cheque wasn’t seen by anyone.

Photo

Thu, 23 May 2013 07:43:14 -0400

death-by-lulz: lolzpicx: …Superman, taking care of business.

Wed, 22 May 2013 23:24:12 -0400

death-by-lulz:

lolzpicx:

…Superman, taking care of business.

Angel with a Shotgun: Do you know how much it means?

Wed, 22 May 2013 23:10:19 -0400

Angel with a Shotgun: Do you know how much it means? :

supernatural-angel1:

Just a few minutes ago I was talking to Jenna, a new found friend of mine, on tumblr. I told her how much she was an inspiration, because she is. Along with her fiance Lucas.

I had told her how much of an inspiration, and I mean it. A while ago, and still sometimes, I because really dark and…

AQSJAJLHALHD Joseph… dude…. reading this really lifted my spirits tonight. Thank you so much for this amazing and heartfelt post. I am so happy that I found it tonight.

I’m deeply saddened to hear that you have had to struggle with such hardships, but the news that you’ve been able to pull yourself out of that and begin to move toward your own happiness is incredible. YOU, not us, YOU deserve all of the praise and respect for that. It is not an easy thing to do.

We may live across the world from each other, but thankfully the Internet makes the distance between much smaller ;D

Much love and respect to you, Joseph :)

Um. Hi Twin! So my friend is transitioning, and I'm trying to be as supportive as possible...but I just can't help slipping. Like calling him by his birth name, and thinking of him as a female. I really want to think of him as a guy, but in my mind, he'll always be a girl. I really want to change this, so I can be more supportive and actually feel like a best friend to him. Is there any advice that you can give me?

Wed, 22 May 2013 22:11:53 -0400

It will take time for your perception of him to change and for your habits in terms of his name and pronouns to change. When a person transitions so too do their friends and family, so be mindful of the fact that these things do take time and cannot be forced past giving it your honest and conscious attention.

Avoid thinking along the lines of “in my mind he’ll always be a girl”… Because this puts an unfair and untrue dynamic on your relationship with him. If you meet and get to know someone when they are 7 years old do they remain 7 years old for the duration of your relationship? Obviously not. People grow and change constantly in all aspects of their identity, and gender is no different.

You can still have your memories of him when he was female, you do not have to abolish all of that. But, just like age, you will find that as time goes on your brain will retroactively shift your memories to reflect the man you know. It will get easier over time, I can’t say that enough.

saunterdown: so nova and twinfool were at goldnova as rapunzel...

Wed, 22 May 2013 07:49:50 -0400

saunterdown:

so nova and twinfool were at goldnova as rapunzel and flynn i couldn’t not get a photo

It was fantastic getting to meet you at Supanova!!!! Thanks so much for coming to say hi ^_^

Hey, I've been wondering why you call yourself Twinfools. Do you have a twin or is it something else. Asking anonymously because I feel like this should be a really obvious answer that I still don't know and I don't want to feel stupid. I only recently started following.

Tue, 21 May 2013 13:34:48 -0400

No need to feel stupid or anything like that Anon! My username is pretty random XD
It’s a combination of my two favourite words at the time in which I chose it. ‘Twin’ and ‘fool’. I just liked the ring that those two words had. They didn’t have a meaning together until I figured that ‘twinfools’ kinda referenced my star sign (Gemini). Go figure! XD

What style of chest binder did you buy before you had top surgery?

Tue, 21 May 2013 13:34:45 -0400

And Underworks double front compression shirt

Hello~ I was wondering how you would deal with cyber bullying? I'm pretty self-conscious about my appearance and weight, and today I noticed I had an ask in my inbox, so i checked it and it was a joke about my weight. I've been feeling depressed ever since I read it and I have no idea who it could be from, seeing as no one I actually know is on my tumblr. Should I respond to this ask or just delete it?

Tue, 21 May 2013 13:34:42 -0400

I remember once seeing posts targeting me on a public forum back in the day, and one post commented on how I was ‘the fat kid in high school’ and the next comment read that I was too skinny and ‘needed to eat a sandwich’.

People will always find a reason to insult others, that doesn’t mean that this insults hold any truth, though they might be triggering. Turn it around on the person who sent the insult. How LITTLE must be going on in their life to allow them to spend their time posting insulting things anonymously about other people? And how LOW must they feel about themselves to feel that need to mock others? People who are confident with themselves don’t need to bring others down in order to feel better.

Responding to trolls is a hard thing to do. Responses is what they want to provoke, and the absolute worst thing you can do is freak out. If you want to respond, keep your cool and as strange as it sounds accept their insult and dissolve it with humour. It’s the Internet shrug off. Don’t let their words have any power over you or given them any ammunition. They want to know that they’ve hurt you.

However I really suggest just ignoring the ask, since responding can be difficult to do. Remember that this was a cheap shot meant to provoke you. Do not take the bait. Ultimately this insult means nothing, because these trolls say I to everyone no matter what their size is.

Hey Lucas!!!!! I'm sure you've been asked this countless times, and it probably gets annoying after so long... but do you Nova, and or the Fighting dreamers plan on going to Fanime this year in California?

Tue, 21 May 2013 13:34:32 -0400

Not this year. We’ve been going for 3 years but last year we decided to take a year off. April was really full for us, 3 international cons in a row, so it is really nice to have a bit of a break from travelling.

We might return next year, although it’d also be interesting to think about trying out a different California con too :)

I've been wondering this for the longest time, but where do you take your cosplay pictures? The scenery is Absolutely gorgeous!

Tue, 21 May 2013 13:34:27 -0400

Usually we shoot locally in Vancouver. We have a park down the street from us that we often go to and we have also shot in downtown Vancouver, Stanley Park, In and around Burnaby, SFU, UBC etc.

However we often do shoots at the cons we go to as well. Many of our shots are from Sakura Con (Washington) as it is a con venue that we have been going to for years. We have shot in California at Fanime a few times as well.
In addition we’ve shot overseas in places like Norway, England and Australia which really changes up the scenery in our photos XD

I really love keeping scenery in mind when I’m walking around, especially in a new place :) I often find myself thinking ‘this would be a great place for cosplay photos!’

Our Aki Con video FINALLY went up late night. AFTER 1000+...

Tue, 21 May 2013 08:27:44 -0400

Our Aki Con video FINALLY went up late night. AFTER 1000+ minutes of uploading!!! (I’m not kidding, it said over 1000 minutes…)

Hey Lucas, I just started T and within two weeks I've noticed that my skin isn't happy lately, despite keeping up with facewash rituals (and typically good skin), it's being testy. When you started, did you experience this? Does it go away over time and why/how? Though I'm so happy to finally be on T, this is one thing that I wasn't looking forward to since my skin doesn't like makeup at all. By the way, hope you and everyone are doing well :) Thanks!

Mon, 20 May 2013 17:05:45 -0400

T has been known to really change a person’s skin. In my case my skin became a little more difficult, but aside from a massive breakout/weird rash thing a few years ago it’s actually been pretty good.

Some guys develop problem skin and hormonal acne that needs to be dealt with in a more serious way. Your skin issues may go away, and they may not, but the important thing is to keep your face clean and moisturized. You may have to try a different type of facial cleansing product or system because your skin type is likely to change.

Best of luck!! I hope everything turns out alright

that's fantastic (and thank you)! I think it's great you're going... i'm not that into Anime/Manga anymore so I don't go but.... AAAAHHHHH YOU'RE GOING AND NOW I WANT TO GO JUST TO MEET YOU AND I JUST (I never thought that you would come out haha)

Mon, 20 May 2013 16:57:31 -0400

I didn’t think we’d get to make it to Animethon anytime soon either! We’ve tried planning the trip in the past but it was always too expensive for us (the flights are more expensive from Vancouver to Edmonton as they are Vancouver to California) so we always went to California instead. But this year we got the chance to go, so I’m stoked!!

Hope you can go so we can meet you there!!! <3

As an FtM, I'm sure you've had to deal with a lot of insults and the like, but has anybody actually ever called you a cuntboy as an insult or whatever? And if they have, your reaction?

Mon, 20 May 2013 16:55:37 -0400

I’ve never heard of that one XD

Oddly all of the insults I’ve endured have been anonymous and online. I’ve never had anyone insult me in person, which I feel goes to show how much water their point of view holds. If you can’t put yourself behind your own opinion, then I feel that that opinion have no value.

The worst thing you can do in response to insults or bullying like that is get irate or strike back. The point of that is to provoke. What I find works best is just giving the person a sideways glance, laughing or saying something like “okkayyy…” and then moving on with the conversation. Let the insult hang in dead air, and put the onus on the other person to deal with what was just said. It’s the verbal equivalent of hitting a tennis ball across the court and having the other player just walk off the court.